March 2012 News:
Everything Old - is Here Again
We have been teaching in Europe and find ourselves saying the same thing: Everything from the past ever created is Present right here on our planet today. We continually receive the same questions about love for others and the best way to love ourselves.
So that brings us to an earlier radio show interview, where Ken explains our philosophies behind Heart & Soul Healing:
A Radio Interview on Love, Judgment and Compassion
Q?: Ken, why are we here on Earth?
Ken: We are here to learn about dualities-all the aspects of unconditional love-in order to completely learn and reflect it, to achieve the compassion that goes with true unconditional love. In order to do this, we would have to experience every aspect of it, both negative and positive. Let’s say I have unconditional love for you. However, what if the very first thing that you did or said I did not like,and I pulled myself back from full interaction with you. By pulling myself in, I also separate myself from unconditional love. My separation from you sends me back into linear time, to a place where I would have to look at my original memory of where love was not safe.
It is not until we learn and master all the different dualities of love, acceptance and non-judgment, that we can stay in the moment and be in unconditional love. The whole process of energetic interaction and relationship is a very interesting and complete way we can pick up all the parts of unconditional love we need to learn and master. All we have to do is to pick up a piece of a particular duality in our lives, or with those around us, and it sets us immediately off into our lesson.
In order to facilitate our whole process or journey, we find mates, partners, friends, or jobs that have a similar reflection or duality. By continuously drawing such experiences and interactions to us, we eventually understand all the aspects of our chosen lessons.
Q?: So this is all about the process of learning to love yourself? Over the years we have heard so many times that we need to love ourselves. People have a tendency to shrug this off and say, “Of course, I love myself,” but that is not always the case. Loving yourself is really an energetic thing, rather than something that can be defined. Is this correct?
Ken: Yes, it is. It is really getting in and loving every part of yourself. It’s no longer a question of saying you love yourself. It has nothing to do with telling others. If we continue to love and accept all parts of ourselves, what eventually happens is that we get to a place where we become a being with unconditional love as part of our presence. This is the state of being we are all looking for. Once we achieve this level of being, we may truly own our position as human beings. At that point, it would no longer be necessary for us to find, for instance, a mate outside of ourselves to reflect something so we could discover who we are. Our being-ness would no longer have anything to do with looking outside of ourselves. It would be about looking inside of ourselves and at our issues.
We continue to co-create situations in our lives to reflect in ourselves what we still need to master. The main key to understanding our lives is to know what issues we are working on. One of the things I know I am dealing with personally is humility as well as power and control. For Nancy the issues she deals with are different, yet we have become mirrors for each of us to look at ourselves. Our issues always seem to be right in our faces.
When I am dealing with my issue of humility, for example, every time I start a class, I make sure my zipper is zipped up and my buttons buttoned - that sort of thing. I do my best to recognize what these situations are showing me. Each time these situations occur, it is serving me so that I may recognize how I am doing with my particular issue. I see or feel if there is any sort of charge that occurs along with the incident or situation. If there is any type of energetic charge, or reaction, then there is something I still need to look at, or need to understand. This is the true basis or starting place for co-creating love and happiness in our lives. We need to know clearly what we are creating and once we have identified what it is, we then have the ability to change or modify it.
Q?: You talk about loving yourself and having unconditional love for yourself. Does that always mean you are going to have, or need to have, unconditional love for everyone else around you? Sometimes there seems to be a fine line about unconditional love and being a doormat.
Ken: What I am suggesting is to not project anything outward, not even unconditional love. To have unconditional love for others you first must have it for yourself. We find that most people have trouble just having any kind of love for themselves - let alone unconditional love. Having unconditional love of self would then become an automatic state of being. We teach compassion. Nancy explains this best: acceptance of 'what is' - acceptance of reality. That means accepting everyone and everything in creation without judgment, without opinion of right or wrong. When we don't accept with compassion - we are actually arguing with reality. If we can stay in a state of compassion for others and for ourselves, judgment won’t even enter the picture.
Everyone is always perfect - in their own way of perfection. It is not our job to judge whether anyone else is right or wrong - that is only our opinion, and our judgment of them.
Most of us have been taught that we must have unconditional love for everybody. We teach that we all must focus first on having unconditional love and acceptance of ourselves. This is what we so often get confused about when we are told to have unconditional love. When we are able to have it for ourselves, we can then have true non-judgment and compassion for others. To be truly honest with ourselves and others, we have to first accept and honor ourselves. This is how to avoid becoming a doormat. Our path begins and ends within. In actuality, we can’t really even be on any path, for we are the path.
It is the concept of judgment that sets up barriers and limitations to what we can do and to who we are or will become. We hold at bay that which we truly desire when we put conditions on it. By putting conditions on our creations, it limits them to manifesting through one narrow little doorway. When in the reality of All, there are thousands of doorways through which our creations can manifest.
Not much has been said about the paralyzing effect judgment can have on our lives and our creations. Something very interesting happens when we judge something or someone. In that moment of judging, all the creative and transformative energy involved is frozen. A piece of our reality becomes locked into place. Any aspect we judge, whether it be in ourselves or another, becomes locked into a freeze frame of reality until it can be located and released. It is as if we are carrying around thousands of snapshots and movie clips, compiling albums that grow heavier and larger by the day. Eventually those albums will smother us and we will not be able to see through them because they surround us, cutting us off from our true reality. The particular aspect, trait, or person being judged is psychically welded to our lives just where we do not want it.
If we look back at the people and things we have judged, our very acts of judgment have stopped time right in those moments. Twenty years may have gone by and if we thought someone was stupid then, we will probably think they are stupid now. This is because our conscious mind, when asked to picture someone we know, will usually go back to the last time we interacted with them.
Once we have a judgment about a particular personality trait frozen in our time banks, that behavior will keep appearing, usually in people around us, time after time. The same aspect or vibration will take many different forms until we realize, “Oh! There it is again.” It keeps coming back, over and over in the relationships we have or the people we work with.
The way to release a judgment is to simply realize we do not prefer that particular thing in our lives. In doing so, we are able to fully allow anyone and everything else to embrace any particular view of life they wish. To accept something in others does not mean it is a true reflection of what we wish to bring into our own lives. The Christian Bible even says, “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” The act of true preference, unlike judgment, will set up a vibrational field from which we can create those things we choose or prefer for ourselves.
Unconditional self-love allows us to find calmness and serenity within our own being. It is only this peace of mind within us that will ultimately allow us to express true compassion for others.
Peace of mind is possible when we hold unconditional love for all parts of ourselves, without self judgment. Judging ourselves will also cause us to freeze frame aspects of ourselves that might change. True serenity, which is an expression of compassion, is the absolute allowance of all that is without judgment. True serenity reflects a knowingness that everything is equal. In order to learn to meet other people exactly where they are, there has to be a complete absence of judgment and a complete presence of ultimate compassion.If we learn to integrate and express this quality of compassion in our interactions with others, all intolerance and prejudice will dissolve. Intolerance exists only because we have forgotten every individual is an aspect of the Infinite. No matter how different someone or something may appear, if it exists, it fits. Everything belongs exactly where it is, for there is nothing extraneous in all of creation.
Learn the easiest way to keep yourself energetically clear and less reactive (less judgmental) by working with the energetic clearing technique.
Become liquid light - the truth contained within your cellular
being - and avoid the projections of others.
Thanks for reading,
Ken and Nancy
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